Have You Said "NO"...

Hi Friends, You must be wondering what kind of question is this, “Have You Said No?”

For the sake, just go back to your memories & try to recall when you said last “No” or “Not” to somebody. Still not clear? Let me help you with some examples, if you are a girlfriend of somebody then have you said “No” to your boyfriend for any of his needless demands?, If you are a wife, then have you said “No” to any illogical burdens?, If you are a Student then have you said “No” to any wrong demand from your friends like smoking, alcohol, etc?, If you are employee then have you said “No” to your boss for his/her unsolicited command?

No, normally we don’t say “No” in any of such situations. What am I talking, isn’t this reality? This is reality, because we are afraid to say “No”. This is the fear, fear of losing the friend circle, nervousness of losing boyfriend or vice versa, dread of getting alone from the family, fear of losing a job, so many things behind this fear. In result of this fear, we accept those things many times which are not legal, which gives you mental stress, which leads to take you in bad habits, sometimes it may dangerous to your life also.

I just want you to say, that you should start to say “No” for wrong things. For saying “No”, you need to have the confidence at start, cause once the person realizes that you don’t like what he/she demands or you are not ready for doing the things as he/she is expecting, they will be on back foot & will not push you for same anymore. But remember while saying “No” for the first time you need to say with full of Confidence & be firm on your stand. Once you win this initial battle nobody will dare to play with you again.

Thought may come in your mind, how should we deny directly? behaving such way, means hurting the feelings of our dear ones. I will not say this is wrong thinking, it’s absolutely correct, but then this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t say “No” to their illogical demands. While saying “No” to your dear ones, you can take them in confidence, explain the consequences if you follow the way they say. Convince them in such way, that they will accept your “No” with gratitude. Try to convince them by all ways. In case of boss, tell the actual & factual reasons, for your denial. Keep in mind if you try with honest efforts, your Refusal will also be accepted. Saying “NO” without hurting is also an Art.

So, Have You Said No?, try once...and experience the change. Be Safe & Take Care…